Wet dreams (A.K.A.: “Nocturnal Emissions”)

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Guys have these sometimes.  They are normal and no big deal.  

Once a guy reaches puberty, his body will constantly produce sperm.   If a guy has sperm building up in his system, his body will just need to release it from time to time.  When he sleeps, his body may release this sperm (ejaculate) without him intending to and he wakes up to wet underwear.  Maybe something he dreamed about triggered this physical response.  Maybe not.  Doesn’t matter.

Afterward, his testicles are empty, ready for more sperm to be produced.

Another way that the pressure of sperm build up can be alleviated is to masturbate. 

Now, something interesting to think about it this:  A man, who is deciding to wait until marriage to have sex, may also decide to not masturbate.  Instead he relies on his body to have wet dreams from time to time.  This choice may help his body to produce sperm at a slower rate, resulting in the need to ejaculate less often.  This means less urge to masturbate.  And maybe even fewer wet dreams.

Fast forward to the day the man gets married.  He has sex with his wife. 

Let’s be honest.  They have sex a lot.  They hardly leave the honeymoon suite.

His testicles are getting emptied pretty often.  This triggers his body to make more…and more quickly, so his body can be ready for the next time they have sex.

So the old saying “If you don’t use it, you lose it” is just not true. 

A man doesn’t need to keep up with his need to ejaculate by masturbating.  He is not going to lose the ability to have sex.  In fact, masturbating may make a man’s body thinks it had better hurry up and produce more sperm, so his choice for abstinence could be more stressful than it has to be. 

The truth is that a man’s body will naturally do some adjusting to his circumstances—whether time of abstinence or sexual activity.

The Skinny on Body Image (or Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…)

 Too thin? Too tall? Too fat? Too short? Nose too big? Boobs too small?

Let it go.

If you obsess about your looks, you will just drive yourself crazy. Decide to like being who you are. Consider this: if you don’t like the way your eyes look, think about how your life might be different if you could not see. If you don’t like your big feet, think about not being able to walk.

There is always a blessing to be thankful for. If you focus on the bright side, the things you want to change about yourself will seem less significant.

Yes, every woman can think of things she would like to change about her appearance. Some things are somewhat easy to change (hair color, or overall fitness, for example). Some things are not (like height or the shape of the mouth).

Give yourself permission to not look like a supermodel. Like who you are. Flaws and all.

The trick is to do the best you can with what you have to work with (like picking out stylish clothes that compliment your shape or putting on some make up that highlights your best features) and choosing to let the rest go.

Stand up for yourself in the bathroom:

It seems that women are expected to complain to each other about their perceived flaws. They stand in front of the restroom mirror together commiserating. Don’t get pulled into this self-bashing pity party. Say nothing and just leave. Or if it’s obvious that others are expecting you to say something, choose to say something like “Oh sure, there’s stuff I’d change about myself if I could, but I can’t, so I’ve stopped letting it drive me nuts.”

What if my “package” is too small?


I’m hung up with the size of my “goods.”

What can I do if I think my penis is too small?

This is no small issue among American males (sorry about the pun)…fueled by all the pop-ups and spam emails and pornography that bombard us on the internet.

In reality, and all the studies confirm, penis size is not an issue to anyone except men. Size has nothing to do with respect, manhood, power or how much you will be able to satisfy your future wife.

In the big scope of things, the size you are is the exact size that will be perfectly compatible with your wife. Being good in bed has more to do with your commitment to her and your passion for her than anything else.

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