Dear Future Wife,

I’m telling you why I have decided to wait on having sex until we get married. I have a couple reasons why.

Sex is to be enjoyed only with the person I marry. By waiting, I am showing self-control, and respect for my future wife. Sex is better in a secure loving relationship, like marriage. I don’t want sex to lose its meaning and value to me.

Having one STI is having one STI too many.

I don’t want the guilt, memories and comparisons! I want my first experience to be a good one w/o the fear of being rejected. I want to know you will be there for me tomorrow!

Sex could become the central focus of the relationship, like an addiction. Then it would no longer be a meaningful relationship. I’m not emotionally ready for that intense of a relationship.

Sincerely,

Your Future Husband

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Son,

Life is very hard right now, especially when you are a teenager. First of all, you have to choose friends who respect your decisions about how you live your life, so they won’t keep leading you down to the wrong things. Sometimes when you hang out with your friends, some of them might think that to be a real man you’ve got to have sex. This is wrong. If you are a real man, you can control yourself.

It might be difficult when you are in a relationship, but you still have no excuse if you decide not to wait. Hanging out with that girl in a healthy place is the one thing you have to work on. Stay away from bedrooms, just stay in public places like restauants or the movies. And stay away from alcohol and drugs so you can think clearly….

Trust me: If anyone puts pressure on you, put it back on them. Sex is to be enjoyed in marriage only.

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To my Future Husband,

All my life I’ve been thinking of you and how our lives would be together. And what you’d say when you ask to marry me. The ring was not the think that made me say yes. It was your heart. All the time we were together you showed abstinence and never made bad choices to leave me and move on without me. I want to thank you for waiting for me and saving sex for marriage. Now we can have a safe and healthy marriage. Then the children we’ll soon have will have a great, sweet, and caring father to wake up to every morning.

Thanks for waiting with me.

I luv u

Me

Son,

You’ve come to an age when girls become attractive, your hormones are raging, and your mind isn’t quite clear. So first of all, I’d like to tell you what it was like for me when I was your age.

My dad (your grandpa) gave me talks all the time about girls, hormones and the ways that guys think, just like I’m telling your right now. I have learned that the hormonal drive to be close to the opposite sex is very powerful. You might want to get as close as you can to the special someone you like, to touch her, to hold her. Son, these urges can be controlled.

Talk about sex may be common at school or in public or with your friends. Our society views it as necessary to show affection for someone. This assumption is SO wrong.

The pains of pre-marital sex are huge: STDs, pregnancy, the financial problems, the emotional and social problems, the list is endless. To avoid all this hurt, you need to learn to control your urges and remain abstinent from sex until marriage.

Sex is a beautiful thing if kept for the marriage bed. God created sex for married couples, and it should be kept that way…

Here are some rules for you:

Go on double dates. Go out to public places to be surrounded by others. Set boundaries ahead of time and don’t cross them. My dad used to tell me to keep “buttons buttoned and zippers zipped” and it’s so true. Pray constantly, son. That is one of the most important things I can tell you…Son, I believe in you, and I love you more than you could ever imagine. I know you can remain abstinent, just like I did.

Your loving Father

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My Dear “Love of My Life,”

I’m writing you today to share with you my choice for abstinence from sex until marriage. I hope and pray that you have made this choice as well.

Sex is a beautiful thing, meant for one man and one woman, in the context of their marriage. But outside of wedlock, sex is dangerous with the possibilities of getting an STD, having a pregnancy and the FACT of emotional and spiritual strains.

However, if we save sex for marriage, God promises to bless us! We won’t have to worry about unplanned pregnancies or STDs or emotional and spiritual problems. There’s so much risk to not waiting…why take that risk?

I want you to know I am saving myself for you! I am praying for you! Please do the same for me…and please stay close to the Lord.

I love you!

Me

Dear Future Son,

I want to tell you what I learned in Burton Middle School about being willing to wait for sex until marriage and being careful with girls. Don’t fall into some girl’s trap. Don’t listen to what they say. Just find a girl that you really love, not girls that you don’t love. Listen to your heart.

Sincerely,
Your Future Mom

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Dear Future Son,

Save sex till you’re married because that is something really valuable for your life. I would want to see you happy in your future and succeed. Be careful and save sex till you are married.

Sincerely,
Your Future Mom

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Dear Friend,

Save sex till you’re married. That’s the best choice. Girls who don’t wait end up going through hard times at an early age…such as kids, STDs, and peer pressure. To prevent all these things, all you have to do is save sex until you are married.

Love,
Your Friend

PS: Listen to the Willing to Wait teacher! She’ll save you!

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Dear Daughter,

I would really love for you to save sex for marriage. I want you to make your first time as special as it can be. Don’t be like mommy and regret it. Saving sex is the best way to avoid getting a disease and all that other type of stuff. It’s better to wait, sweetheart, than to regret it. Be careful with these guys out here in this crazy world. They will try to trick you!

Mommy loves you.

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Dear Young daughter,

I want you to know that, no matter what, you will always be loved by me. I want you to know that you are beautiful. Don’t let yourself be bought. Respect yourself, your life and your body. Don’t let anyone do (or make you do) something that you are not prepared for.

Be willing to wait. Let that one special feeling be saved for only one person…

Do the right thing or you may regret it.

Sincerely,
Your Mother

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Daughter,

I think you should wait until marriage to have sex. If you don’t wait, you could end up being pregnant or have lots of problems, like having lots of bills.

You are more valuable than anything, so save your virginity for someone special. Don’t fall for anybody who tells you that you are beautiful or “I love you” because all they want is sex. But if you meet the right person and he waits with you, the two of you were meant to be.

Love,
Your Mom

Dear Future Hubby,

I want to save sex for marriage because I’m not ready for emotional baggage and I don’t want to risk getting pregnant or getting an STD. And if you can’t understand that then I’m sorry, but you need to find someone else if that’s all you want from me cause I’m not a doll that you can play with and then leave me whenever and think that I’m going to let you back in. So now that you know my values I hope you respect them and me and if not good bye.

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Dear Future Husband,

I’m writing this letter to let you know that I’m waiting till I’m married to have sex. I have 5 main reasons why:

1st: I want to finish high school and graduate.
2nd: I’m not ready for sex.
3rd: I want to enjoy my young life WITHOUT SEX.
4th I do like kids but I’m not ready for one.
5th: My reputation

So now that you know my reasons, I want you to respect them. Loving someone isn’t just about having sex, we can show our love in some other ways.

Sincerely,

Your future Wife

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Dear ______ (friend),

This letter is to just tell you that you should wait until you are married. _______, you should not be pressured for or from anyone that tell you. Look there are many ways that you can have infections. All you need to do is wait.

If you feel pressure by your own boyfriend tell him the following:

We can have infections
Probabilities of pregnancy
HIV

I believe that you would not like to have those things. I just want you to have a good life with someone that loves you and understands you.

From ______

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Dear Little Baby Boy,

Look, when you grow up you’ll understand better. Look, you need to save sex for marriage. Why…because there is many different diseases when you have sex out of marriage. Also you can get a girl pregnant and have to support her even if you don’t want to. So, I’m just warning you save sex for marriage.
Sincerely,

Mom

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Dear Future Husband,

I have waited all these years to so this with you, so you could be the first and only. Hopefully, you have done the same for me.

I also hope that you treasure this moment always and forever. Lastly, I hope you and me last a lifetime.

Love,
Me

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We need to have a family talk about being abstinent until you’re married. Well, I wanted to tell you that your bodies are very precious.

You should save this until you are married because people at your age have hormones that make them want to have sex and stuff like that. If you ever get in this type of situation, don’t be afraid to just change the subject or leave or just say no.

Don’t have sex with anyone. Wait until you find the right person and get married. And then you will know that that person deserves the gift that you are about to give.

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Dear Husband,

I have waited till today to give you the one important thing a girl treasures most. I have gone out with other guys, but one thing’s for sure: I waited for my true love. And guess what…you are my true love.

-Your new Wife and Life Partner

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Dear Friend,

I heard about you and your boyfriend and what you plan to do.

Please consider waiting till you’re married, because if you don’t you might end up pregnant. Then you will have to drop out of school and your parents might get mad. Plus you don’t have money for such a big responsibility. There is also the probability that the guy might leave you because he’s not ready to be a father.

Please take all this into consideration.

Sincerely,
Your Friend

Stop.
No don’t.
You shouldn’t do this
just because they say
“I love you.”
There are risks
you can’t avoid.
STDs and STIs.
Pregnancy.
Emotional scarring.
You don’t know for sure
that you’re going to be married
to this person,
no matter what you think.
Please.
Just wait.
You never know,
do you?
Do you want to suffer consequences?
Or would you rather live happily?
Wait.
I beg you.
Just wait.

Dear Future Children,

By the time you read this you will be about my age, 13. You’re reading this because I am encouraging you to choose abstinence. I chose abstinence, because I wanted my first time for having sex to be with someone I love completely.

I hope you are willing to wait like I was, but if you choose to not wait I will be there for you. Yes, I will be mad at first, but I love you too much and will help you through it. I will not kick you out, send you on your own, and I would never make you take care of your own baby. You did know pregnancy is one of the possible consequences from sex. Some of the other consequences: I will not be able to trust you for a time. You may have some sleepless nights, because there may be some hard decisions to make. You may even have to deal with STI’s. Remember though you can tell me everything.

Your father will probably react differently, because he’s your dad, but we both love you so much.

Love,
Mom

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Dear Friend,

I just wanted to give you some advice about having sex before you get married. My advice is just because a person says they love you, doesn’t really mean they love you. They can say anything and it may be what you want to hear, but it may not be true.

If you then have sex, what if the condom fails? Your girlfriend gets pregnant and the truth comes out. Sometimes the truth hurts. Plus you run the risk of getting an STI.

Besides you don’t even know if you are going to be married to this person. No matter what you think it is most likely you guys will just end up not married.

The choice: do you want to suffer tough consequences or would you rather live a happier life knowing you waited?

I beg you dude just wait.

Love, Your best friend

Dear Future Daughter,

Relationships are wonderful but can also be complicating at times! You will go through many guys before you find the right one. Also some guys are the type that use you and pressure you into things like sex! When in a relationship be sure to stay in the first 4 stages…

1: talking, flirt, eye contact

2: hold hands

3: hug

4: kiss.

The reason you want to stay in those stages is to protect your body and to test the guy and see if he is willing to stay in those stages and love you and not use you.

If a guy were to say, “hey we’ve been dating for 2 weeks and I think we should go to the 5,6,7,8 (passionate kissing, touching and sex) stage”, say “No” because he’s not worth it. He only wants your body, not you and you want a guy that is willing to wait for sex. You’ll also think you love a lot of guys too, but realize that you’ve been wasting your time on a guy who doesn’t even love you back.

Trust me, I’ve been through several relationships and I thought I loved them but they were the type that used me. I’m in a relationship right now and I’ve been with him for 5 months and we still haven’t crossed the fourth stage.

Protect your body and it will protect your heart.

Love,

Your mom

Dude,

So if I understood you correctly, you want to have sex with your girlfriend? Well, I don’t think that is the right thing to do. It is against God and what He wants because sex is meant to bond a married couple together. If you did have sex with her, you might feel used. You also might break up with her, which would break her heart (and yours too). Her parents might find out, too. Just think if her DAD found out! He would probably kick your butt so hard that you wouldn’t be able to sit for a week! You might feel guilt or jealousy, too. You might think “Is she flirting with that guy she just flipped her hair!” and other stuff. You also might lose the respect from your family, teachers, and friends. Your little sister (and don’t forget your little cousins) might think “Hey! If he can do it, I can too, because that’s cool!” Think how disastrous THAT would be.

There is always the problem of STDs too. I don’t want you to be hit by that train. You could be stricken for life…you could die from some STDs. Protection doesn’t work 100% of the time. So don’t rely on condoms or the pill. You can’t hide the evidence if your girlfriend gets pregnant. If you two don’t want the child, PLEASE don’t choose abortion. It won’t solve the problem. Put the child up for adoption so he/she can have a better life. Having sex now can also hurt your marriage later on, when you are maybe married to another person.

I, personally, am choosing abstinence from sex before marriage because there will be no problems later or emotions to go through. But, if you choose to have sex with her, I will be there for you when you are going through troubles. Think about it and write me back what you think.

In Christ,
Your Friend

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Dear Boyfriend,

I know that the pressure and urge to have sex can seem unbearable in high school, but I recommend waiting. There are a lot of risks in having sex before marriage. Risks like unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and emotional and physical pressures. I plan to wait until I have married to have any kind of sex. God’s plan is for one man and one woman who have been joined in marriage. Sex can be a wonderful thing, but you and I are too young for sex. My mother had two children before she was twenty-three. My brother was born when she was sixteen! She’s told me over and over how hard it is to have a child so young. The risk of STDs continues to grow. I don’t want either of us to have to deal with that. Chances are, having one sexual partner now will lead to being sexually active in future relationships too.

I have chosen to keep my body pure and to follow God’s plan. When I turned thirteen, I got a purity ring…I hope I still wear it, but even if I don’t, it is a small symbol of my choice. I know that we are in love, but it’s my choice and I choose abstinence.

Your Loving Girlfriend

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Dear Future Son or Daughter,

I want to tell you something very important. Before I tell you, I want you to know that I will still love you very much, no matter what unwise choices in life you might make. But my job as a parent is to tell you the right choice and help you make the best decision and the right decision.

One big decision in life you have to make is whether or not to have sex before you are married. God wants us to wait until marriage. Please take this seriously. I want you to have the best life that you can. If you have sex before marriage, it can do so much to your life that you will not want. The biggest factor is pregnancy. Think about how much stress that would put on your relationship. If you are in high school or college at the time, you likely would have to drop out to take card of your baby.

You are a child of God and your body is His creation, His temple. Respect your body. God loves you and wants you to take care of your body. Be pure and holy with your body He has given you.

Love,
Mom

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

1 Corinthians 10:13

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Dear Boyfriend,

I know that we have been considering going further in our relationship, but I think we should wait. Even though we are considering marriage, and that we will probably end up being married, I think we should just wait until then to have sex. I have many, many reasons for this decision.

There are the factorial reasons like I don’t want an STD and I don’t want a child. STDs are dangerous and gross!! I don’t want to have the chance of getting one, and the only way to protect myself from an STD is by not having sex. I also do not think I am ready to take care of a child. I know that there is protection to keep me from getting pregnant, but there is too big a chance that it would fail. If I get pregnant, I won’t be able to take care of the child and that is just not fair to the child.

There are also personal reasons. I love playing soccer. If I get pregnant, I won’t be able to do that anymore. Soccer is a very important aspect of my life and I am not willing to give that up right now. I also like to ski and ride dirt bikes. I wouldn’t be able to do those things if I get pregnant.

There are also emotional reasons. I won’t be able to walk around school without getting dirty looks. Everywhere I go I will be judged. This is not something I will be able to deal with. There will be embarrassment and my reputation would be on the line. If my friends find out about this, they won’t be able to look at me the same. I will feel guilt. I have always told my parents that I want to be a virgin. I will feel so guilty knowing that I am not a virgin anymore.

So, if you truly love me, you will take what I have said into consideration.

Love,
Your Girlfriend

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Dear Friend,

I think you should seriously start considering the many consequences that come with having sex.

First of all, you have to live with that guilt and embarrassment for the rest of your life. God commands that we save sex for marriage and we must obey Him. He knows best.

Second, you can get a disease through sex with someone who is infected. I do NOT want you to get any of those diseases. They are terrible. If you got one, you might have it the rest of your life and it might even cost your life.

Third, you can get pregnant. There are a TON of responsibilities that come along with having a baby. My mom just had a baby and babies are a lot of work! You are too young to know if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You may end up being a single parent and would have to grow up so fast. You would miss out on so many fun times with our group of friends. My parents, sister, and I spend so much time raising my little 5 month old brother, and I can’t imagine having to do that alone all day long. I love him so much, but I wouldn’t want to miss out on school and sports to raise him. You are so smart and are looking forward to college some day. That would be so hard with a baby. Hopefully you wouldn’t just marry the father for the wrong reasons and have to live your life in a miserable relationship.

We have a lot to learn before we become parents. We are really just children ourselves. So let’s just be teenagers and have lots’ of fun hanging out, playing soccer, and making memories, and leave the sex for marriage. If you don’t know what I am talking about, I will let you borrow my baby brother for a weekend and you will get what I mean.

Love,
Your Friend

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Dear Future Husband,

I want to let you know how excited I am that we are getting married. Just to let you know, I am not going to have sex with you until our wedding night. In the Bible, God tells us to remain pure. I am very strong with my beliefs and I will not give in. I would feel way too guilty if I had sex before I was married. There is also the issue of STDs. Now, you don’t have to worry about getting one from me. I am guarding my heart and I am hoping you respect that.

Sincerely,
Your Future Wife

Dear Kids,

I love you all so much and I want the best for you. When you finish middle school and begin high school, you will be pressured to be sexually active. There are so many risks when you do that. One risk is that you could get an STD, and you don’t want that. You could also get pregnancy and then what would you do? Your life would change in so many ways. There are choices of what to do such as abortion, adoption or just having the precious child. Please don’t choose abortion, in my opinion that is just murder, because from the time of conception, that baby is a child of God and a human being. You could choose adoption but with that you would probably just feel all sorts of guilt. If you choose to just have the child, you would have many problems such as financial, sports, no time for hanging out with friends or school. The best option is Abstinence. You will also have so much emotional baggage if you chose to be sexually active; you will be attached to them in a certain way. Just please save your self for marriage. That is the way God wants. I love you so much. Please don’t give in to peer pressure.

I Thessalonians 4:3-4. It is God’s will that you should be sanctified; that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable. No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

Love you,

Mom

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Dear friend

I pray that you will choose abstinence because the consequences of sex before marriage are costly, emotionally and financially. You may be considering having sex with your girlfriend but I would highly recommend that you wait until you are married. It is a gift from God, but that gift comes with big responsibility. Also if you do not wait, you will have tremendous guilt that you have never let in your life.

Also if she gets pregnant you will have to deal with a baby. This can cost lots of money and you will need to drop out of school to earn money. Lack of education is bad because you will not get a good paying job. This decision will affect your whole life and I pray that God will give you wisdom during this time.

One other risk with sex before marriage is sexually transmitted diseases. These are terrible things to get and you do not want to have to deal with these infections and some are not even curable. Sex can be a good thing, if you wait till you are married; and I encourage you to share this information with your girlfriend. You will be glad that you waited.

Your friend

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Dear Kids,

When you grow up someday you will have many temptations such as sexual temptation. There are many dangers involving this topic and I’m telling you for a fact to avoid any sort of these types of things. Some big issues relating to this topic are STDs and many other diseases that can be passed on when you are sexually active. Another reason to avoid this is that you never know when a pregnancy could happen and this is not something you should have to worry about. There are so many risks relating to this issue that the best way to be safe from all these dangers is to choose abstinence from sex until marriage. That is what God wants us to do and it is the safest for our bodies and we must protect them for our bodies are temples of the Lord. Choose your friends wisely and those who respect your decisions about your life. Hang out in public places and always have a plan of what you are doing and also be careful what you are looking at on the internet and what you wear. Lastly STAY AWAY from alcohol and drugs because when you are under the influence you can not think clearly and make bad decisions. This is what God wants you to do and if ever you have questions you can talk to him in prayer and he will help you out.

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Dear Kids,

At this age (13), you are going to have to go through many temptations such as sexual temptations when you’re in relationships just like me. When this time comes you should know that choosing abstinence is the right way to go because if you get sexually involved there will be many problems such as: emotional times where your boyfriend/girlfriend might break up with you which will be very emotional and/or other things. Also you could possibly get pregnant (or get your wife pregnant), get an STD/STI and many other diseases that could be passed on from getting sexually involved. A condom is not 100% guaranteed to keep you safe from possibly getting pregnant (or getting your wife pregnant). The safest way to go is choosing abstinence, it will give you a healthy relationship and also it’s what God wants you to choose.

God has made you and given you this great gift that you should wait until after marriage to use it. God only wants to keep you safe and protect you, not prevent you from having a good time with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

I hope that you agree with me and God by choosing abstinence until marriage just like I had done! Love you lots kids!

Love,

Mom

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Dear Friend,

Since you are seriously considering having sex, I need to remind you of all the bad possibilities or risks.

Sex before marriage is being disrespectful to you future wife.  How would she feel? 

There is a chance of a pregnancy, or more likely, an STD.  But on top of all the physical stuff, you might have to deal with emotional pain.  Think about what God has given you:  life, and some clear instructions in the Bible about how to live a good one…like saving sex for marriage only.  And what about your parents, how would they feel?  What if they found out?

And what if there was a pregnancy?  Would you get a job to support this baby?  Would you choose adoption?  Abortion?  These are tough choices.  God’s plan for sex in marriage only is for a reason–our protection.

Your Friend

Dear Future Husband,

I have decided not to have sex with you until we are married because I want to be positive that you will stand beside me on anything, and be there for me when I need you. I don’t want my first time to be something that I regret. I want it to be a wonderful experience with the man I love and will spend the rest of my life with. Also, I want to finish school and have big dreams and goals in my life that I want to fulfill and I can’t do that if I’m pregnant before I’m married.
Finances are another thing. If I get pregnant before we are married and you don’t take responsibility for your child and help with finances, which you can’t give if you don’t have a job, that does not put me in a situation that I want to be in. Babies are expensive and money doesn’t grow on trees. Marriage is also a symbol of trust. I need to be able to fully trust that you don’t have any STIs or STDs. The last thing I want is to be getting or sharing those disgusting things with my partner. Sex is meant for marriage because it expresses love and unity. It unites two people physically, emotionally, making them one. Having babies and starting families are for married couples, and therefore the enjoyment and pleasure of having sex is for your spouse and ONLY your spouse. Abstinence is very important to me and I want to have sex with a spouse that can respect and love me for who I am and not just what I can give them. You may say, “If you love me, you don’t have to wait,” but the truth is, “if you love me, you CAN wait.”

Sincerely,
Your Furure Wife

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Dear future daughter/son

When I was your age I decided that I was not going to have sex until I was married. I had a few relationships but not that many. Sometimes they pressured me into a relationship and when I saw all my friends happy with their relationship it made me feel like I needed one too. But seeing their hearts get crushed by the one they thought they loved, it made me realize that I didn’t want that to happen to me.

Me being a good athlete, being a good student and watching my friends get hurt helped me stay away from sex. I would like you to choose the right path like I did. Also, don’t ever forget that you can come talk to me before any of this ever happens.

Love,
Your mom.

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Dear Future Husband,

There are a few things I want you to know. First of all, I am writing this letter at age twelve so it might be a little awkward. Second, I am writing this letter to tell you that I have abstained from having sex until married (which you already know). I decided to wait for marriage not only because God wants us to, but also because I believe sex should only have one place and that is in marriage. Additionally, I really didn’t want the heartbreak, pregnancy (since condoms and birth control don’t always work) or the dreaded STDS that not even condoms can prevent in some cases. I have been saving sex for you and you only! Now I don’t have to worry about memories or comparisons and I know that you won’t ever leave me. I have saved my most treasured gift for you, not just giving it to anyone who wanted it.

Like Ms. Kelly said, “I was not giving it to anyone until I got a ring on my finger and walked down the aisle in my big floofie dress, with all my friends and family there to see.”

I’ve saved it all for you and I am very proud of it.

Love,
Your Future Wife

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Dear Future Husband,

I really hope that we have a good future and that we have a lovely family. That is what I always wanted in my life. I just want a good future that is worth to live for. And I’m also hoping that our kids get straight As and that we have a good home and van . And I also hope that we will love each other as long as we live.

I also hope that you are someone that will be willing to wait for sex. I also hope that you will think that I’m a person that will be waiting for sex. I love you my future husband with all my heart and on our wedding day when I walk down that aisle I know that you were the right one for me and when I do I will feel so special and that I hope you feel the same way and on our honeymoon I will feel like angels are around us as our hearts are glued together for ever and ever. That will be the perfect moment to kiss you just right my husband. I love you and I can’t wait until that day.

Love,
Your Future Wife

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Dear Future Husband,

I have waited to have sex until I get married to you because I would like to lose my virginity to someone I truly love and whom I will stay with forever. And I will know that once I give you the treasure, you will not leave me, and you will respect me for who I am.

When we get married I will give you the treasure. If we would have had sex while we were still in school I would have to drop out of school and not be able to graduate. We wouldn’t set a good example. But if we get married and then have sex, we would already be finished with school.

I hoe you respect that. My decision is good for me and you.”

Love,
Your Future Wife

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“Oh Annie, it was so hilarious!” Lena giggled. While holding on to her side.

“Yeah?!” Annie tried to produce a fake smile. “It sounds like it.” Her voice fell flat. Come on confess your thoughts. Annie nagged herself.

Lena cut off her chuckling and pinned a serious gaze on her friend. Annie was shifting uncomfortable on the bed. This was not like Annie’s fun-spirited nature. Something must be really bothering Annie. She wasn’t a wiz at math, perhaps Friday’s homework was the cause of her downfall, Lena thought. “Annie?” Lena lowered her voice. “Is something upsetting you?”

Annied snapped her head up. Lena continued, “You know, I could always help you with your math homework if that’s…”

“No? No!” Annie stumbled. She took a deep breath. Just tell it now, Annie thought. Annie’s gaze hardened. “Lena….I’m seriously considering having sex with Justin.”

Lena’s face gave away to shock.

But as Annie continue, she sighed dreamily. “I’ve been considering this for some time now. Lena, I can feel that he’s the one! He understands me! He…he loves me” Lena opened her mouth to speak, but Annie continued sharply. “He doesn’t just love me for my body.”

Lena’s mouth clamped shut and gulped before asking “Are you certain of your feelings toward him, and his towards you?”

“He says he loves me.” Annie whispered.

“Annie!” Lena suddenly shouted. Annie jumped. “I will not let you throw away your future, and all that you accomplished in your life for some boy, who doesn’t…” Lena paused giving the next few words some thought, “…who doesn’t take women seriously but treats them like chew toys.”

Annie’s eyes gave way to tears.

Lena took a deep breath. “Annie, I’m so sorry! I spoke so rudely.”

Annie said, ” I guess I was overwhelmed!”

“But why Annie?”

“I believe that if I show him that I can be sexy…he’ll be mine forever.”

“Oh Annie!” Lena reached over to comfort her friend. “You shouldn’t have to feel this way. You are a beautiful woman every second of the day. You don’t or shouldn’t have to wear some tacky clothes to get Justin’s attention. He should love you the way you are. Plus, sex is a serious and emotional thing. And just because you have sex with him doesn’t mean he’ll stay with you.” I couldn’t live with myself if I saw you have a broken heart, or feel unsafe and unsecure or guilty for that matter if you had it. Or what if you get pregnant or worse, a STI or a STD. Besides, isn’t the best sex honeymoon sex? Don’t you want to save that for the man you marry?

“You’re right Lena!” Annie said perking up. “I don’t need to have sex right now. I’m only 16 and I’m a virgin and I want to stay that way! I wonder if Justin will be patient?” Annie said with a faraway look in her eyes.

“Why?” asked Lena

“He’s going to have to wait for all of this!” Annie made a dramatic arm movement.

Lena giggled, “Oh!” The two friends got up from Lena’s bed and walked arm and arm out the door.

Dear Future husband,

I really hope that we have a good future and that we have a lovely family.  That is want I always wanted. I just want a good future that is worth living for. And I’m also hoping that our kids get straight A/s and that we have a good home.  I also hope that we will love each other as long as we live.  So I am hoping that you are someone who is willing to wait for sex.  I love you, my future husband, with all my heart and on our wedding day when I walk down the isle I will know that you are the right one for me.  We will have sex for the first time on our honeymoon and our hearts will be glued together for ever and ever.  I can’t wait until that day, our wedding day.

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Dear Future Husband,

I have waited to have sex until I get married to you because I would like to lose my virginity to someone I truly love and who I will stay with forever.  And I will know that once I give you the treasure on our wedding day you will stay with me and respect me for who I am and not just for what I can give you.

If I get pregnant once we are married we can raise the child together.  I know by waiting until we get married that it will give you more time to be a great husband and father.

I hope you respect my decision to wait because it is a good decision for me and you!

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Dear Friend,

“Hey, can I ask you a question?”
“Yah, sure, what is it?”
“Me and my boyfriend were together last night and he was using all these weird lines on me.  Trying to be all seductive and sexy.”
“Well, what did you do?”
“I kinda fell for it”
“You what? Did anything happen?”
“No, no!  He made me feel all guilty though.”
“What did you do after that?
“Well, I told him I’d think about it.
“Good, you lied to him.”
“Ummm?”
“You’re actually considering it?”
“I was.  I’m so confused!”
“Well, there’s consequences.
“I know, but, I don’t want to lose him.”
“You could get pregnant or get…. Those things!”
“Well what are the chances of that happening to me!  A lot of other people at school did it. They’re fine.”
“Yah, on the outside. They could be depressed, sick, guilty, scared, or have an STI!”
“But my boyfriend might break up with me if I don’t do this.”
“So, then he must not love you if he’s making you do this.”
“Well, he gave me a choice.”
“Well, what’s option 2?”
“He said or else”
“Well, that’s specific. He could mean break up.  Do you trust him?”
“Yah.”
“Well you don’t sound sure. Just wait until you’re sure. Wait until you’re married.
“Okay. I think you’re telling me the right decision. Thanks!”

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Dear Future Husband,

There are a few things I want you to know.  First of all I am writing this letter at age twelve so it might be a little awkward.  Second is that I am writing this letter to tell you that I have abstained from having sex until married.  I decided to wait for marriage not only because God wants us to, but also because I believe sex should only have one place and that is in marriage.  Additionally, I really didn’t want the heartbreak, pregnancy (since condoms and birth control have a failure rate), or the dreaded STDS that not even a condom can prevent.

I have been saving sex for you and you only!  Now, I don’t have to worry about memories or comparisons and I know that you won’t ever leave me.  I have saved my most treasured gift for you, not just giving it to anyone who wanted it.  Like my teacher said, “I was not giving to anyone until I got a ring on my finger and walked down the isle in my big foofie dress, with all my friends and family there to see.”  I’ve saved it all for you and I am very proud of it.”

Love,
Your Future Wife

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Dear Friend,

If you are considering having sex with your boyfriend I want to tell you to wait until you get married.  One of the reason is because you will probably break up within a week.  They all say that sex can help a relationship, but it really destroys it.
If you do have sex you could get pregnant and that is a whole other story. When you have a baby it can become very difficult to juggle everything. You will probably drop out of school.  Without an education you can’t get a good job. Without a job there’s no money. That is why most teen moms end up being poor.

You could also get an STD. Those are no joke. Some of them can give you cancer. Now who would want cancer?  And if you didn’t get pregnant or a diseases there will still be emotional consequences, which could lead to other bad choices.
I don’t want any of that for my friend. So, I really want to tell you to wait until you get married to have sex.

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Dear Daughter,

I am writing you this letter because I love you very much and I want you to know you can talk to me about anything.  I know that it’s really hard at your age understanding your emotions.  There is all kinds of pressure to do things that you’re not comfortable with, like having sex.  Choosing to wait can be hard, especially when someone you care about is pressuring you.  But being willing to wait is so important!  Sex is meant for when you get married, to show the person you married how much you love them and respect them.  It’s a special gift for only your future husband.  By waiting you will get more respect and respect yourself more.  You will be showing great self-control and it will mean more to you when you do get married. Don’t let anyone pressure you, and if they try to just turn the pressure back on them.  Tell them if they respect you and really care they will stop pressuring you.  I know you will do the right thing, but if ever you feel confused or pressured and want to talk I am always here for you.

Love, Mom

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To My Future Husband,

I hope you understand what I am going to write about.  There is absolutely no part of me whatsoever that wishes to have sex with anybody before I marry.  Everyday I practice abstinence and it always keeps me on track.  Here are some of the main reasons why I do not wish to have sex before I am married:

1. I want you to respect me and my wishes about willing to wait for sex.
2. I don’t want anybody to pressure me into sex.
3. I don’t want to be used. (So don’t marry me if all you want is sex.)
4. I want to make sure you truly love me, and I won’t have sex with you until there is a diamond ring on my left  hand.
5. If I have sex, I don’t want it to be before my marriage.  This is because I will know you will support me and  stay with me if I ever get pregnant.

These are just five reasons why I wish to have sex after I’m married.  I hope you read through this very thoroughly. Thank you for reading this.

Sincerely,

Your Future Wife